My story
Graduate student, I disdain you
Originally thought you had pursued the master degree, will let me think even more that loved and respected you, but, No, your behavior lets me not appreciate you, envy you again, disdain you! Why know?
When being admitted to a university, you were glad to come to tell your aunt, only my mother, my whole family have been glad for a moment for this too. Since being small, you like playing at our home because because my mother loves dearly you. Study in middle school, want, get my home you go back to your house first go home, weekend while being every, so, my mother will cook the good food for you, has had enough, then just go back each time. Because your school grade is good, become the idol in the hearts of younger brother and me, learn from you.
Time passed, you went to the high school, people grew tall too, the general, such a feeling in my heart at that time, if you are not my cousin, that is better, then I can marry you, oh! There were few people who saw in the childhood, the outstanding one was less, so will unavoidably send out so inmature an idea and say with feeling. Want college entrance examination, you but at all nervous, we know because you are quite sure to oneself too, your achievement lets us rest assured in but high school, you are sure to realize one's own ideal. If really, you have been admitted to Guangzhou South China institute of technology the excellent achievement, all several days and nights glad for you for my whole family. You say to my mother too: "Aunt, I graduated afterwards, worked, will certainly show filial respect for you, you are so kind to me, I will remember all one's life. " " the silly child, the aunt hopes too you can fly out, you are high-minded, I am glad " . The persons who say are not be in the mood for, the listener has the intention, this seal with deep too sentence is in my heart - -" you can fly out, high-minded, I am glad " " fly out, the prospects are glad" .
Time for four year pass by soon, cousin coming into we house fewer and fewer even admit to a university. Come back one term, can reach us let I mother chat. Come back in the second term, come once again, several hours short, ate a meal and left. Big two begins, coming for our time just becomes several minutes. And I cousin seen to have daily and nightly in the thoughts seldom come to our house again. Four years later, as soon as he graduated, he stayed in the South China Sea and worked. After going to work, he has never made a telephone call to my home, has come back on the Spring Festival, has not seen his shade either. In this way, day passes by.
He is admitted to the undergraduate course, only mentions with a lot of persons in a town that read the high-minded one, it must be unavoidable to talk about him. My uncle, the aunt makes nothing of hardships to be for him to go to school, face the loess and carry it towards it all day, work from dawn to dusk, seldom see their time for rest, it is very difficult to say, support one university student study, must how much does it spend one year, hoe hoe a lot of enough for he term living cost for one term just. But they are tired and also happy, because university students have appeared at their home, in the countryside, it is many glorious things.
And the cousin watches the other villages have many ones that are admitted to a university and come out, follow him to be about equal, those " high-minded " in front of people Person not merely one of him piece too. Then he begins to consider that prepares for the postgraduate qualifying examination, to preparing for the postgraduate qualifying examination, in his heart, he can't fall after people, test a graduate student, have face even more later. I know, the thing which so long as he thinks of, so far as can't do, calculate everything comes to him who waits, he has realized another step success of the dream - -He admit to Peking University graduate student, what it is concrete professional he exchange with me, I am not specially clear, only know, his ox, the calendar has been hurt.
A securities broker company goes to work in Shenzhen after graduating, hears of 200,000 of annual pay. Listen to, frighten people to death, that one year salary can county town of countryside buy a heavy set of houses in us, really envy. Thinking by now, uncle, the aunt can have a rest too, should be the age living in ease and comfort too, more than 50 years old.
What the thing was not always imagined is beautiful. He has come out to work for more than one year, it is said the annual pay has already exceeded 280,000, but hear he never sent the money and went home, and my uncle, the aunt, for the livelihood, in order to support a large sum of debt which the cousin took advantage of while going to the college that year every day, go up a hill to go to the field and do agricultural work. At home, the house is still the original house, the motorcycle is still a motorcycle ten years ago, unalterable, but the villager of home town spoke most while seeing uncle each time, what asked too manily is, " your son's prospects, why you are not with going to Shenzhen to live in ease and comfort " ,Still what farm work is done, it is enough for you to spend to send and like some odd each month. My uncle always keeps silent. I know, the reason why he is reticent. He remains silent, he does not respond, conducts oneself in the village badly after not just thinking of the cousin, thinking too what difficulties he may have.
As I learn such a situation, I want to beat this fellow forgetting the past suffering ruthlessly very much, it is said this fellow lives a very honourable life in Shenzhen now, why can't his once of scene too Papa and Mama? Having lived for more than 50 years, has never been to the big city, perhaps will point this time in lifetime.
Graduate student of famous school, annual pay is nearly 300,000, hold the flourishing big city, the carefree basic necessities of life. His parents, very old, still face the loess and carry it towards it every day, for the livelihood, for the debt for the son to go to school that year. Sad .
Graduate student, you are very amazing, you have realized one's own ideal through making great efforts. But I looked down upon you at one o'clock, because of the person of you of care, paid the wealth with tangible and invisible too much for your today. Let me disdain you your today!
Leave home, come out to struggle alone, I swear to let Papa and Mama live a good life
The achievement that I studied is unsatisfactory, other children did not accompanied me to play while as a child, will also be bullied sometimes. Come down all the way and form my unsociable and eccentric personality, non- talkative. Since reading junior middle school, I am thinking that will leave the hometown and go out to struggle some day, people appear to throw the ground. This kind of thought has been staying in my heart all the time. Have graduated from primary school and read junior middle school and graduated from junior middle school and studied in the special secondary school, it is so year after year, day by day. To tell the truth, it is not good from the condition of the small family, my father can spend better day for this family, where just go to Fuzhou to make the room and install sulphur inside, where the project is reached, must my father go, have sometimes sometimes sometimes remembered him for one year for old half a year in Liaoning in Jiangxi in Beijing in Fuzhou, minus more than 30 degrees centigrade, daddy but willing to to buy cotton-padded clothes, can only sleep on plank evening, that was covered is a thin quilt. In this way, the daddy is rushing about, is drifting. And has paid out wages each time, my father has only stayed more than 100 yuan in one's own pocket, have sent all other money back. Such day later on, while chatting with the daddy, talk about ", other ones that lived hard very much, on one hand homesick, miss wife and children; On one hand must put up with boss' temper, worked as a temporary labourer for others, can not suffer two sentences of scoldings of others, this age thirty or forty, do not feel better either " ,The idea at that time was, my father paid for this family really too much, it must be well filial that we had grown up, he, no longer let him suffer hardships.
Time floated until 1998, I graduated. The uneasy heart has been wanting to make a living away from home for a long time, and I leave, younger brother that there is mother left and study in the family, grandparents' life is better and too many than that of we, the grandfather is a retired veteran cadre of Department of Civil Affairs, one have to leave one's post King bring, but they did not like younger brother and me while as a child a thousand too month, will not take the grandparents of younger brother and me, does not need us to worry about at all, live a very moist life.
It is probably 99, the grandfather 81 years old hurts the brain seriously in a traffic accident, having sent to the county hospital, the doctor says that " does the best to transfer to the city hospital " ,The ambulance sent the grandfather to the city hospital that very night, the city hospital said that " may have had no hopes, otherwise go to Guangzhou " ,And my father heard about his father at this moment, came back that very night, saw his father in the hospital, unless unless at the time of grandfather of me, break to pieces heart, after all this to give birth to by he father to raise him,even before all sorts of regret. Because ZhangZhou - Guangzhou is far away, afraid this grandfather can not prop up on the way, my father decides, does not go to Guangzhou, invite the best doctor in the city hospital, ask the superfine to attend to the life saving the grandfather. Mother at this moment has been accompanying and attending to it at one's side all the time too, the grandmother cries in a complete mess aside. And the young son that he loves most in all one's life, only my uncle, say that there is not father whose energy accompanied him in the whole journey, that is thinking is the retail business of the family, it is known that my father looks after the grandfather at one's side, you went back right away. Finally, the city hospital has no power capable of saving a desperate situation to say, go home, time will not exceed ten days, how can relieve oneself OK.
After the grandfather connects and goes home, my father stews pig's waist every morning after being busy before being busy, then some things which benefits the body, feed meals, rub one's body with a towel, one does completely. Time pass each day one day, pass by ten day, pass by 20 day, grandfather work miraculously get off. Time is not defeated by great pain people, the grandfather turns better slowly. Cadres of Department of Civil Affairs, the leader in the county, an original companion is gone to visit one after another, the person wounding my grandfather says for a time there is not money in the family, the expenses of several ten thousand yuan are only given fragmentarily. Have no idea, my father's kindness lets him dispense with a firm battle. Go through Death challenge in life, go through this there won't be time death martial prowess attacked suddenly to think coerce, the grandfather has seen different behavior of two sons, sigh.
In almost one year, the grandfather's body recovers slowly too, my father has been accompanying him at home all the time, but mother is a woman after all, can't swallow grandfather's once fault to our family a bit, do father's work all the time, let him go to work again. Mother's insistance, let fathers shoulder the travelling bag and go out to go to work and make money again.
A good time never lasts long, grandfather disease pour again, if may be getting on in years. One this lie down, can ride as before bicycle go, play, can't like play mahjong the before either again, chat with old comrades, talk animatedly. My father ran back that very night, this one came back, did not go out again. Following day this mother arduous to make some business at home, make some money supply life of family with. After being busy before it was busy that father looked after his father in everyday in the hospital day and night, mother blames father, but father is soft-hearted, can't hate the lower heart. Who ask him it trickles to be the grandfather's blood Slowly, mother has just said nothing, grandfather and spirit helping to look after in the sickbed together instead are extremely " nervous " Grandmother,relation among mother-in-law and daughter-in-law unprecedented harmony,it is know whether mother and grandmother every one noisy soon two day in the past not to want, whenever father sees this scene, always sigh aside, he is becoming a filial son, become a good husband? This question has no way of investigating. Through this instead, but can find out mother's ambition.
I alone in Shenzhen, for one's own livelihood and work hard, for more convenient work, have studied in the night school for three years in the TV university arduously. In three years, my salary removes the tuition, there is not many left, then seldom come back the living cost, even celebrate the New Year, go back very reluctantlily. Because I do not want to see the grandfather, grandmother, my animosity to them, to be frank, perhaps this lifetime will not go to forgive them, I thought in this way at that time.
Day moored to flow be worked hard outside, I ignore, get steady day and hardships of working as a temporary labourer outside slightly at father can pass for us, it is difficult to endure how I only appreciate the day of more than 100 yuan in the pocket. Very feeling a pain in the heart, I swear, one day in the future, I will let Papa and Mama live in ease and comfort on crossing, whole family together, the happy happiness is filled the air during that time. Then unfortunate incident come over I always, in that days, I meet hateful thief make me have no money, meet hateful people's driving and seize the a bit more only mobile phone of two pieces of money on one's body, meet the hateful cheat and let me almost tramp the streets. The unfortunate thing remembers very more, does not get on very well and feel sad, does not carry.
In May of 2005, I know my present husband in www.gznet.com, nobody has known, husband and I were got off by the network lover originally, fortunately, what I got was true love finally. After the network matchmaker lets me get to know husband, much much, one may well say that talks about everything under the sun after we have had a chat, the saying to him of and some troubles,etc.. Happened that it is improper to work at that time, I resigned at friend's home, we are having a chat all through the night, there is excited burst we expect, that is to meet at the same time. Has determined to meet, after wanting one's own giving to the fat man in that end of this strange network all one's life too, I have regretted, afraid. The east of mine wants the west to think, have thought much, " if, whom I met is network cheat, after I deceive him, how run I, will he it sells me to to be state or where, then what shall I do? " And then I think again: He is that bad person, what about that? I have hesitated, how do, what is to be done fear? See? Disappear? It is permanent to hesitate in my heart one. Having pondered in my brain for a few days in question, and he of that one seems to understand my worry in computer, he tells me, if worry, let the police stay at a unit and defend me, when he come to see me. I have thought for a long time, I break through one's own line of defence finally, see him. On the 29th of July of 2005, I let him go to Shenzhen to see me.
That day meeting, he bought a big bunch of flowers, went to Shenzhen by train from Guangzhou. Then after reaching the village of Sungang, God's will gets people, perhaps sounding out, just the taxi, fine to have, blow rain, the sun remain unchanged. It is raining, far, I have seen him upstairs, the one that saw with the network is the same, white shirt, white slacks, the recreation leather shoes that the rice is white - -Charming prince, is this my charming prince? It seems that I have not felt strange at all, hands are touching flowers, according to feeling, he goes to downstairs where I live, quickly, the rain has suddenly stopped, he has drenched, we come on a courtesy nature embrace meet, this is embraced, I have already determined, this is the person who I looked for, in his chest, I feel safe, he who drenched wetly at will, I have smiled, I say: Whom God arrange for on purpose, this rain on purpose, see you can halt in the rain, see whether you will get to the end, you have accomplished.
When being too many, I have come to Guangzhou with him, to belong to his domain. Having come, everything is the strange place to me. He looks after meticulously to me, he cooks for me, even wash the clothes, look after coldly and warmly, really easy to move.
Later, after the news that he found the girlfriend spread. The position which we belong to, there are a lot of fellow-villagers of theirs, relative,etc., everyone all wants to know me. I that been engaged in the work of administration respect, have kept in touch and known with his cousin whole family while drinking tea once, and then initiate the thought that his cousin wants to run the company jointly with us, more than one good news, I also wanted to promise him quickly, but I at that time did not have, and then after several relatives knowing, I have new understanding to his cousin: Stingy, afraid the wife, care. How terrible, where this we return to dare. And then day,it learn he there aren't Liu Bei, it is we the simple residences to talk four times not to go, purpose very clear, run company jointly with him, fund half produce alone, manage, responsible for all while being the whole by me, they do not meddle in. I think of, perhaps the person will change too, perhaps his really sincere cooperation with us. And then I discuss with boyfriend, have made telephone consultation with my father, the daddy objects to, he hopes we ourselves do, start from retail business, we have not listened to daddy finally. Have chosen with his cousin's cooperation.
Company ( Should talk about the operating room) In preparing in full preparation, during this time, I still meet and hear much information which object to our cooperation, but all of us have filtered it, there is one answer, we should show them, we believe too, people will change.
It is as what we imagined and simple for fact to have, the operating room has been done, the business has left and got on the right track slowly too, nine months later, we do not want what happened to happen, his cousin's watch old woman often hears his cousin praise me, the words appreciated and admired, may touch, get he form various ideas of sister-in-law, and then initiated the dispute before them, the final statement is to stop cooperation with us, they themselves take over and do the company. I am heart-broken, someone smiles at us, say this result is very normal, they finish planning in energy early, from the first day cooperating; Somebody say, make he dark people getting many, we strange either, relative the same, in front of money and interests, there is no kindred at all.
The arduous company run surrenders submissively in this way, can not bear I making this tone, at friend's home, I have cried, because I am really so sad, start an undertaking for the first time, I defeat in this way, have not had no reason to frustrate in the partner's snare in this way. The boyfriend stays in Guangzhou and clears with his cousin, we are fortunately in a complete mess too finally, because they can not let us earn, this is their principle.
The boyfriend fetches me home in Guangzhou from Shenzhen, after being sad, it is decided to do by oneself that we reform the psychology, start from retail business. In this way, September 26 of 2006. We hold father and 100,000 yuan of younger brother support ' Our money has already been drawn in the snare boring the schemer) . We have opened the the first shop, do the stock clothes to sell in batches, a just now 24 square meters of good small shop.
And then day,in responsible for store it sell to goodsing in I,last knowledge and computer knowledge of me, I have known Alibaba, has utilized Alibaba, I have sold goods to Heilongjiang, Tianjin, Yunnan,etc., all parts of the country. We give low price most, low batch of getting up most, have retail business that does not do while being so-called, thus customer's friend whom I got to know on a lot of business, my sincerity is sincere, have earned the long-term customer on the road to the second phase of development for me. The boyfriend looks for the goods arduously outside, the business of hundreds of yuan, we do too, the money business of thousands of yuan, we do too. Over 50,000, we make, come down, because of me on the pocket actually, very arduous originally, but we very happy, together hand in hand we, intimate. We make one's own career, we connive bright tomorrow.
At the end of 2006, we thought not enough a shop, then added another shop, in short three months, we have two shops. New problem produce, shop to take, come down, but hand this enough what is to be done? Two shop divide into in two place, I pay attention to, come at all alone. And then, the boyfriend says that lets his mother help to see another shop, that's settled then, getting many one right away in the life of us, that future mother-in-law. Help us to cook breakfast in the morning, then go to run a shop to do business, come back again in the evening to help us to cook suppers, then we can have a meal and watch TV after coming back, in this case, we are much more relaxed, it is tired of course, but we get is mostly the happiness.
In March of 2007, we will rent 150 square meters of next warehouses again, we hauled goods and put to the warehouse hereafter, then ask people or oneself several people to put in order, proper arrangement is sold again in order, leave a clean and neat impression on the customer in this way, it is more smooth too to do the business, because of our shop too, always neat in the warehouse, clean, attract a lot of counterparts' concern, they will say comfortably once getting to our store, certainly, I hear even more comfortable.
On May 7, 2007, it is said that will be developing a market again nearby, the boyfriend runs to three definitely, but choice of place very much unsatisfactory, 3 of tail most, I think, the market is so big, where have so heavy to go to tail place of tail go goods to think us then while being patient guest. But has taken and taken, anyway the market is not open, consider later, a lot of things are unexpectedly met. We have booked two very expensive shelf mouths thereafter, but there is very large upgrading space, investment and risk coexist, this is definite, we will be so unchancy, I suppose. Then has taken the shelf mouth that can be open at two the end of the years, has taken 7 altogether, assign to three markets.
The business is going on all the way, I am busy all the way too with the boyfriend, the business has been done, the thing follows to come, the fellow-villager has things and have no thing to drop in family. Know at all even, come until you familiar in each too, others open one's mouth, borrow pieces of several hundred come on, should meet an urgent need, in a word, there are all kinds of people. And at this moment, family of boyfriend press for, have, this we two have two years too together, should get married too, the unheeded advice that the stranger is breaking up with them too, say I am so competent, so beautiful, get married till now, when fly, know maybe, wait a moment. And my family members think, the daughter is not small, two people's emotion is so good, then just get married. In fact, none of them knows our attention, we think the undertaking have a few tables, the car of buying department again, no matter expensive and cheap, can ride instead of walk at least. It has to be to can give people scorn for and then.
On November 6, 2007, we have one's own company brands formally ---Milan dress Ke, square 250, five computers, has invited five people, the mother-in-law went back in early days in the future, and then the Papa and Mama come to help me to think that do business, should hit explaining with the money the shop, I can't yet believe in, hand over to, administrate oneself other people to have blood relationship the job very much so far. This is my principle.
On January 11, 2008, I marry husband, the car of buying department, takes the blessing of numerous relatives and friends, the eyes envied taking everybody, we have got married. We are very happy, very happy too, because we did not get married pennilessly. We have happiness, the happiness, blessing and applause.
Who says that there are not prospects without graduating from university, I overthrow it
Once scorned for because one's own diploma is not high; Once because the diploma was not high, a lot of good working opportunities brushed against oneself; A lot of outstanding boys can not take a fancy to you, everything, everything, taste various life's joys and sorrows to the limit, I still firmly believe, one day in the future, I will exceed them, overthrow them, change them, I believe, I make it.
At last, everything comes to him who waits, I accomplished the successful beginning at last, the definition succeeding was very wide, make ordinary thing into unusual that calculate, succeed already, become unusual thing very much ordinary, that is greater success. I believe, the commonplace, I can do very well, no the commonplace, I who am same can do very well! Like me you can unquestionably accomplish too, efforts, succeed from your nearly first step, if you do not make great efforts, it is out of reach to you to succeed forever.
"Believe oneself, believe oneself!
kemy
2008-7-9
